If we have truly done what we believe as best effort in the moment; then there can’t be anything any better.
In BaZi (八字) destiny consultation, practitioners wears the hat of emotional rubbish bin or recycling truck. Often needs to lend a listening ear to Querent’s woes and feelings. Helping people reconcile with the hurts of life, provide resolution and help Querent to move forward. This in 1 paragraph; sharing my 2 cents worth. I hope this experience helps fellow practitioners frame and anchor these 3 reality, so that the wound now becomes the place where the light gets in.
“The hurts of our lives are link to the perception of the hurt. The person we blame for the hurt did what they need to do in their life. And, the only way for us to be hurt is for us to compare the moment of the hurt to another moment in our lives. When the moment is all there is, and there is no past nor future we can compare with, this moment is all it is and feels very different and loses its hold against us. Therefore, emotions are closely link with the expectation and attachment of our past.”
The 60 JiaZi (甲子) is one of the earliest and ingenious invention of the Chinese Culture. Its purpose is to record years, months, days and hours. And in the course of civilization, these 60 JiaZi (甲子) took on a beautiful spiritual veil known as TaiSui (太岁).
TaiSui (太岁) is a God enshrined by the people, and according to folklore everyone is guarded or protected by their own TaiSui (typically based on birth year). There is also another metaphor known as 12 deity of TaiSui ( 太岁十二神).
Instead of using the annual TaiSui (太岁) to check if a particular zodiac has energy clashes and harms. Why not, use our day pillar (日主) to check the 60 JiaZi (甲子) and see which TaiSui (太岁) we are in sync with or who is “looking after” us. Google these TaiSui (太岁), read up and understand their history, what are their strengths, virtues and characters attributes which we could adopt and incorporate into our daily lives.
Expand this metaphor a little further using all 4 pillars, we might have 4 different mode of TaiSui (太岁) to learn from with regards to each aspect of our environment. It could be well ranges from righteousness to humility. Instead of praying to TaiSui (太岁), perhaps its time we start learning from TaiSui (太岁). Let’s enjoy this little exploration.
1，年 Year embodies externalities, government, authority, social relationship, superiors, bosses, grandparents, uncle’s, aunties, in-laws and parents. 2，月 Month encapsulate work environment, colleagues, peers, friends and siblings relationship.s 3，日 Day focus on family environment, spouse relationship. It also includes self as well as personal values. 4，时 Hours deals with personal aspirations, dreams hopes and fear. It also encompasses offsprings and children relationship or matters.
Acceptance is all about understanding that each of us is fighting an inner battle of some kind Not judging people is an important first step to managing karma. As we haven’t walk in their shoes, we don’t really know what they have been through.
Forgiveness relieves us from ‘the pain’. It takes an amazingly compassionate person to forgive. Forgiveness doesn’t mean we are happy with what was done to us; it means we have move forward in love. Great things and manifestation happens to those who forgive.
Gratitude is important, those who are thankful are happy. Express gratitude daily and the universe rewards us with inner peace.
Reflection is to understand the good and bad we see in others exists within us. Everything we see outwards is an inwards reflection of ourselves.
Energy that we send out (to the universe) will one day somehow comes back. Therefore, those who radiate positive energy will receive it right back. Moods, Vibration and Luck will improve.
Reaction is the way we respond to those around us. This will determines our karma. Nothing happens by chance, everything that happens to us is so that we can learn something from it.
Forgiveness transformation anger and hurt to healing and peace. Set yourself free, improves health and raise vibrational energy, attract good luck. 1. Embrace the situation and release ourselves, don’t keep revisiting what has happen. 2. Switch from blaming others to understand ourselves. 3. Don’t go to sleep angry. 4. Stop acting fragile and keep looking for reasons to be offended. 5. Reduce conflicts by avoiding telling people what to do. 6. Happiness is our own responsibility. 7. Be kind instead of being right. 8. Practice giving.
In BaZi destiny reading concept always talk about auspicious vs Inauspicious element. On the ground, in our everyday life, what this means can draw analogy of one’s favorite food. It not the expensive meal or restaurant that taste the best, it what one’s loves that taste the best.