If we have truly done what we believe as best effort in the moment; then there can’t be anything any better.
In BaZi (八字) destiny consultation, practitioners wears the hat of emotional rubbish bin or recycling truck. Often needs to lend a listening ear to Querent’s woes and feelings. Helping people reconcile with the hurts of life, provide resolution and help Querent to move forward. This in 1 paragraph; sharing my 2 cents worth. I hope this experience helps fellow practitioners frame and anchor these 3 reality, so that the wound now becomes the place where the light gets in.
“The hurts of our lives are link to the perception of the hurt. The person we blame for the hurt did what they need to do in their life. And, the only way for us to be hurt is for us to compare the moment of the hurt to another moment in our lives. When the moment is all there is, and there is no past nor future we can compare with, this moment is all it is and feels very different and loses its hold against us. Therefore, emotions are closely link with the expectation and attachment of our past.”